I have to say, my mother is so caring and put herself towards me my whole childhood. But it was a bit much.
Do not get me wrong, and I know it is rational to say that each mother has a set of beliefs and expectations to become the best mother.
We shape these views because of the pressures we face in our cultures, society and relationships with our parents, and the opinions of peers, family, and the media.
These external factors can also cause mothers to become too concerned. I am a grown-up now, but this too much concern made my mother treat me like a baby and made me wear diapers, which made me a big baby back then.
Here, I will walk you through all the reasons I have found behind this big baby situation and my mom’s actions.
Not Letting Me Do Anything on My Own
I mean, sure, I was a kid, but as a ten-year-old back then, I wanted to eat my food on my own.
Not that I did not love it, but in family gatherings and birthday parties or at weddings, I wanted to eat on my own and spend time with the kids who were my age.
But I did not get that and sat with older adults and got bored. Allowing children to practice becoming confident is the perfect way to develop independent children.
Remember, by doing tasks on their own, the children will learn a lot.
Not Giving A Single Responsibility
Many kids may not want to take any responsibilities when they only want to play and read a little.
Still, in my case, I wanted to do some tasks and take some responsibilities—for example, passing the teacup to my father or helping to bathe our cat. But I always left behind back then.
Because my mother was overprotective, I might break the glass or get scratched by our cat and whatnot, and I would love to get small tasks daily.
So, designate age-appropriate chores daily for your kid. They will enjoy it and become more and grow more. So give it a try.
Diaper For A Long Time
Many will say, and I agree, that diapers are for goods, but it’s not fun to create pressure. I mean, who enjoys this till 12?
My mom made me wear diapers because my teacher does not always let me go to the bathroom. Even though I do not have any problem waiting, it will be embarrassing if something goes wrong, so my parents and especially my mom insisted.
The decision made me angry. I disagreed, but I obeyed. After these years, I realized that making me wear a diaper was bitter.
But to say the least, particularly because it was my teachers’ mistake in the first place for not allowing us to go to the bathroom. My mother was only trying to protect me from any embarrassment.
Whenever we go on a road trip, I was forced to wear these. Mom constantly lectured me as if I was a baby!
Long road trips were almost unbearable, but I managed to stay dry then, yet I could not convince my mom that I did not need diapers.
In my relative’s house, the case was the same. It was so tricky in summer to wear those. I was furious to grow up back then to no longer be a baby in my mom’s eye.
My Failed Attempts
At the age of 14, I tried to change how I was being treated, “Like a Baby.” So, I begin by displaying my intelligence in my mother’s presence. I avoided saying something or pointing out any changes.
I wanted to have my emotions in check while I am with her, and it was hard, but I tried. I tried to keep my promises and fulfill my obligations.
I tried to do my jobs even though my mother was always making sure that I am not doing any work of my own. I did my laundry.
Sometimes I rushed into the kitchen and made something for my mother to let her know that I care for her and not a baby anymore.
Treating As A Baby
Nobody enjoys being treated like a child. Perhaps some will not stay out as late as they would like or choose their preferable clothes or bags possibly.
A two-year-old can be seen trembling to get out of their parent’s hands so they can discover, play, touch things, and whatnot.
So think when this two years old has become a ten or twelve years old and what this child had in mind to explore.
But what I faced is not getting to speak up for any decision as I was a baby and do not understand the matters.
My choices do not have to be obeyed but what I wanted is just my mother to listen. But again, I was a baby in my mother’s eyes, so my decisions did not matter.
Again, I love my mother like you all do, but I think maybe a bit more responsibility on my shoulder since my childhood will prepare me more for my future.
I never liked being treated like a baby and more hated when I was forced to wear diapers. Of course, diapers are for good reasons, but there is an appropriate age and most importantly needs to use it.
I understand that no matter how aged a person gets, they will always be a baby in front of their mothers’ eye, and I adore that.
But what I am against is caring, which makes one weak and shy, maybe. In many cases, when they grow up, they become uncomfortable around people and become dependent, which causes trouble in youth and so on.